One thing for sure is that when those porn sites are tempting you with their enticing devices they are not telling you that pornography is really harmful. Yes, indeed, when young men are being tempted for one reason or another by sexually enticing sites or even other forms of pornography they are not consciously aware of the harmful effects of such activities. However, they usually find that out the hard way. If you are one of the victims of porn you need to know how to break the porn addiction before it's too late. If you don't break the porn addiction it will break you.[]
First and foremost, we will take a look on how porn becomes an addiction. For most, its starts at a very early age. They usually start with very soft or mild pornography material but as they keep watching this it no longer suits their needs. As such, they start to turn to more explicit material. This keeps growing until they can no longer leave this habit.It can leads to committing shameful acts to satisfy their sexual needs such as masturbation, the use of sex toys, prostitutes, one night stands, adult sites and more things of that nature. This can have a very negative effect on a person because it could end in divorce or break up for some and also lead to lower self-esteem, not being able to control his temptations and other mental or health problems.
Most people who do not know how to break porn addiction usually go through the same phases. They first give themselves a goal to stop pornography immediately and rely on evading exposure to porn and fighting their temptations. As time passes, they start to become restless and irritated by they desires and it comes to the point where they can no longer support it. Finally they simply give in and regret, saying to themselves that they'll try harder next time.
This routine can go on for years at a time and if you don't know how to break porn addiction, you will likely never be able to. As such, just like other forms of addiction, you need to find the proper help. Now this can come in many ways. Some join a social club while others go to religious centers to break their habit.However, these are not the most preferred methods because most people who suffer from porn addiction would rather stay anonymous simply because it is something even more shameful than smoking or drinking. That is also one of the reasons why it is hard to break because most people are just too ashamed and would rather not show it.
Action is important; if you procrastinate over doing something then you will never get it done. Most people suffering from addictive behavior lack the drive to take action. A smoker says he will quit on his birthday or new year, a gambler will quit after their next big win and so one but usually they continue to delay. Having the willpower to take action is something that no one can really help you with it has to come from a determination within yourself fueled by a vision of how much better your life will be when you cure yourself.Such immediate actions for porn addiction include unsubscribing to porn sites, deleting all porn from your computer and blocking porn sites out with 3rd party software. These are good steps more for motivation than for effectiveness but reducing temptation is never a bad thing.The problem comes when one takes action without a true understanding of their addiction. Action is a top down approach tackling the symptoms and very obvious aspects of the addiction but it does not remove the root cause of your addiction so the weed may once again grow in a moment of weakness undoing all the good you have done.
Understanding helps you take a bottom up approach to overcoming porn addiction. This means you must first understand what your addiction is, how it is damaging your life and those around you and of course understanding you do actually have a serious problem.Following this you must delve deeper into your psychological problems and investigate and understand the root causes of your addiction be it low self esteem, a warped view of women and sex or problems within your marriage perhaps? There are so many reasons and everyone is different so it must be you who comes to the final realization.
Every person suffering from an addiction to pornography has deep-seeded reasons for turning to porn to handle their life situations rather than finding constructive ways of coping. These can be very individual causes. Many programs designed for treating addiction include some way to get at these often "hidden" reasons. Some addictions have a long history that has often been suppressed. Abuse, neglect and other root causes are sometimes tossed into the back of the memory, rarely to be retrieved.
The motivation to do all this can be hard to come by but the sheer fact of the matter is that your future is in your hands and this is a battle that can be won if you apply yourself men tally and physically to the task. There are reams and reams of books written about motivation so I will not go into that here but provided you can keep the motivation and use these two tools you can be porn free before you know it.There are a lot of people who think that it is easy to break porn addiction and it does not need any form of treatment or help. Unfortunately, porn addiction is just as bad to break as any other such as smoking, drinking etc. There are a few things that we will outline in the following on why is it so hard to do so, what are the negative effects and where can you find the proper help so you can finish this once and for all.
Breaking a porn addiction will involve coming to a greater awareness of the process and progression of addiction. How the mind works is a topic that is receiving much more attention these days. A basic knowledge of what's going on upstairs can really allow you to cut yourself some needed slack and to realize that your mind is working against you. Understanding the brain's role in your addiction will also let you know how to use it to your good and how to break free from the cold clutches of pornography.
Another essential component in breaking a porn addiction is learning how to listen to yourself. Find a quiet place. Take a notebook, a pen and some sincere questions. Looking inward before you take a step outward is a powerful skill to master. Because you are often led to walk by the voices in your head, it's pretty important to get them straight so you can help direct your destination.Ask yourself questions like, "Why do I view porn? What is it I am seeking? What does God know that could help me out?" As you ponder these and other questions that come to you, you may just be in store for some profound personal insight that no program can provide... unless of course it has you do this activity as well :)
[Break Porn Addiction]
First and foremost, we will take a look on how porn becomes an addiction. For most, its starts at a very early age. They usually start with very soft or mild pornography material but as they keep watching this it no longer suits their needs. As such, they start to turn to more explicit material. This keeps growing until they can no longer leave this habit.It can leads to committing shameful acts to satisfy their sexual needs such as masturbation, the use of sex toys, prostitutes, one night stands, adult sites and more things of that nature. This can have a very negative effect on a person because it could end in divorce or break up for some and also lead to lower self-esteem, not being able to control his temptations and other mental or health problems.
Most people who do not know how to break porn addiction usually go through the same phases. They first give themselves a goal to stop pornography immediately and rely on evading exposure to porn and fighting their temptations. As time passes, they start to become restless and irritated by they desires and it comes to the point where they can no longer support it. Finally they simply give in and regret, saying to themselves that they'll try harder next time.
This routine can go on for years at a time and if you don't know how to break porn addiction, you will likely never be able to. As such, just like other forms of addiction, you need to find the proper help. Now this can come in many ways. Some join a social club while others go to religious centers to break their habit.However, these are not the most preferred methods because most people who suffer from porn addiction would rather stay anonymous simply because it is something even more shameful than smoking or drinking. That is also one of the reasons why it is hard to break because most people are just too ashamed and would rather not show it.
Action is important; if you procrastinate over doing something then you will never get it done. Most people suffering from addictive behavior lack the drive to take action. A smoker says he will quit on his birthday or new year, a gambler will quit after their next big win and so one but usually they continue to delay. Having the willpower to take action is something that no one can really help you with it has to come from a determination within yourself fueled by a vision of how much better your life will be when you cure yourself.Such immediate actions for porn addiction include unsubscribing to porn sites, deleting all porn from your computer and blocking porn sites out with 3rd party software. These are good steps more for motivation than for effectiveness but reducing temptation is never a bad thing.The problem comes when one takes action without a true understanding of their addiction. Action is a top down approach tackling the symptoms and very obvious aspects of the addiction but it does not remove the root cause of your addiction so the weed may once again grow in a moment of weakness undoing all the good you have done.
Understanding helps you take a bottom up approach to overcoming porn addiction. This means you must first understand what your addiction is, how it is damaging your life and those around you and of course understanding you do actually have a serious problem.Following this you must delve deeper into your psychological problems and investigate and understand the root causes of your addiction be it low self esteem, a warped view of women and sex or problems within your marriage perhaps? There are so many reasons and everyone is different so it must be you who comes to the final realization.
Every person suffering from an addiction to pornography has deep-seeded reasons for turning to porn to handle their life situations rather than finding constructive ways of coping. These can be very individual causes. Many programs designed for treating addiction include some way to get at these often "hidden" reasons. Some addictions have a long history that has often been suppressed. Abuse, neglect and other root causes are sometimes tossed into the back of the memory, rarely to be retrieved.
The motivation to do all this can be hard to come by but the sheer fact of the matter is that your future is in your hands and this is a battle that can be won if you apply yourself men tally and physically to the task. There are reams and reams of books written about motivation so I will not go into that here but provided you can keep the motivation and use these two tools you can be porn free before you know it.There are a lot of people who think that it is easy to break porn addiction and it does not need any form of treatment or help. Unfortunately, porn addiction is just as bad to break as any other such as smoking, drinking etc. There are a few things that we will outline in the following on why is it so hard to do so, what are the negative effects and where can you find the proper help so you can finish this once and for all.
Breaking a porn addiction will involve coming to a greater awareness of the process and progression of addiction. How the mind works is a topic that is receiving much more attention these days. A basic knowledge of what's going on upstairs can really allow you to cut yourself some needed slack and to realize that your mind is working against you. Understanding the brain's role in your addiction will also let you know how to use it to your good and how to break free from the cold clutches of pornography.
Another essential component in breaking a porn addiction is learning how to listen to yourself. Find a quiet place. Take a notebook, a pen and some sincere questions. Looking inward before you take a step outward is a powerful skill to master. Because you are often led to walk by the voices in your head, it's pretty important to get them straight so you can help direct your destination.Ask yourself questions like, "Why do I view porn? What is it I am seeking? What does God know that could help me out?" As you ponder these and other questions that come to you, you may just be in store for some profound personal insight that no program can provide... unless of course it has you do this activity as well :)
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